A little secret about your wedding vows
By Philippa Thomas
Here’s a little secret about vows ...Your vows can be WHATEVER YOU WANT THEM TO BE.
They can be long or short, English or whatever other language you choose. They can be funny or dead pan serious. Heck, you can stand there and read a meatloaf recipe! There are no rules.
Does the very thought of public speaking make you want to rolf in your shoes? WE HEAR YOU! And guess what? YOU DONT HAVE TO READ VOWS AT ALL.
Now, you do legally have to include words to the effect of, “I XXX take you XXX to be my husband/wife” but your celebrant can put that little line ANYWHERE. And your full legal names only have to be used once. Not once each, just once. So people will only hear your embarrassing middle name one time, and only if they are paying attention!
Look, at the end of the day, it’s your ceremony. YOURS. And when we say your celebrant can make it as much about you guys as you like, we mean it.
If you get a great celebrant they will help you with your vows. They will print them out onto cards for you, they will spell check them and if it is important to you even word count them for you - whatever it it is that takes the pressure off they will do it.
And if for some reason you don’t manage to get your vows to your celebrant before the day, that’s okay too. They will make sure the legals are covered...and whatever you say on your wedding day will be perfect. And that’s our promise (vow? See what we did there) to you.